List two communication rules your family uses or used when you were growing up.
1. Don't talk about Religion... unless it's pro-Jesus
Once when I was about 10 years old me and my family minus My Dad who was at work were all sitting around the living room and I brought of the topic of Christmas asking why do we have to celebrate it. My mom told me not to question it, using the common parental response "because we just do and that's how it is." Well... similar to how I am now, I don't like blindly following rules without explanation so I responded that I'm not celebrating Christmas because I think it's stupid... you can understand how that didn't go over so well.. I learned that day that religion isn't a good family bonding subject to talk about.
2. Sex/Sexual orientation and Relationships
I don't remember the "talk" probably because me and my siblings never had it, so I did a lot of research on the internet... which wasn't that great of a teacher. I did once have a conversation about sexual orientation with my sister and it got really heated... I can imagine how that conversation would go over with the rest of my family.
The first rule would work fine in my family. We talk about Jesus all the time because we are Christians. We talk about religions that other people follow in conversation. There's no awkwardness in conversations of faith on my mom's side of the family. It is pretty regular. My dad's side, however, doesn't talk about this much.
ReplyDeleteMy family doesn't talk about sex all that much, but I wouldn't say it's off limits. My mom had a talk with my sister and I but it wasn't in too much detail. She read us a book. I went to a public high school and my sister went to a private school. I learned stuff at school and would come home at tell my sister and my mom and say, "Is that true?" and my sister would say to us, "How come I'm learning this from my younger sister?" Haha! So, although we don't really talk about it much, it's not off limits.
My family can openly talk about religion. We talk about different types of religions and how they differ from our own.
ReplyDeleteMy family has become more open to talk about sex in the last few years since we have all moved out. It seems like we are all over the age when it is "taboo" to talk about it.